Don't fool yourself this is not easy, nor is being a single Mother. Raising a child on your own is one of the most difficult things that a person can do. Is it worth it? YES!

 

Do you have to sacrifice your life to do it? Some, but the rewards are well worth it.

 

I have been divorced since April of 1995. At the time of my divorce the concept of shared parenting was new. I also knew that because I was starting a new job that I could not get full custody, the income level was too low and the Courts at that time were siding heavily with the Mother. In fact they still are. I was also told that I would not get custody because I was a male. WRONG!

 

Fathers are supposed to work and Mothers are supposed to raise the children. What I would call a very "Fifties" attitude in a world that is supposed to be equal to all. Doesn't the Equal Rights Amendment say that all people are supposed to be treated equally despite race, sex, religion or sexual preference? When is this going to be followed?

 

It is time for every fit parent, single, divorced, or married, to take a stand against this bias. The more that stand up the more of a voice we will have. Write to your elected officials. Write to the editor of your local paper. Make your voice heard.

 

I want to know when Domestic Court Judges are going to be held to this same standard as everyone else. Why are they allowed to let their bias' influence their decisions? Why doesn't the Federal Government step in and put an end to this discrimination? I have seen the bias in person. I have heard about it from every attorney and man that I talk to in the waiting area in Domestic Relations Court. It is very real.

 

When I divorced I was going to be one father that was not run over by the system. In standing up and deciding to stay in my son's life in a very active way, not be the weekend warrior that so many Dads are turned into, I broke some new ground. I am going to try to keep breaking ground for my son and other fathers.

 

This is the story of what I have been through to save my rights as a parent. I will fight for those rights with every last breath that I take. I challenge everyone to do like wise.